People think that self-esteem is confidence or positive thinking or the ability to get on with life when things are tough. But these are only part of the story. True self-esteem knows how to be in the right place at the right time. This is not based on ego or seizing the moment for selfish ends but rather on a connection with love that moves in harmony with the natural cycles of life. This wise form of self-esteem is free from fear and enables you to be responsible for your thoughts, deeds and actions. It is not projection of the ego but the opposite-the acknowledgement of the soul and its effect upon the world as a real force. Such self-esteem is the sacredness of life, applied to the everyday events that we experience. Each of us has this self-esteem. It connects us all, brings us friends, gives us lovers. You can feel it in others when you allow your heart to be open to other people.
Our lives improve only when we take chances-and the truest and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves. When we are we create integrity, which is the direct action of the soul upon the world. Integrity is the energy behind change and the energy of change itself. Change has a huge emotional impact on the human consciousness. To the fearful, it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful, it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident, it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better. Integrity is the honourable and elegant use of change. By staying true to yourself as everything around you changes, you come through change without diminishing your inner knowledge of what is true, moral and natural.
Each time we truly forgive, a little more goodness comes into the world. Forgiveness takes courage, self-knowledge, self-love and serenity. The ability to forgive is the attribute of the truly strong. Forgiveness is the healing of wounds, however they may be caused. It does not always lead to healed relationships, but it does lead to healed lives. When you choose to let go of a past wrong and of blame and hatred, you choose to invite love and peace into your life.
It really does not matter whether the person who hurt you deserves to be forgiven. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself because when you forgive, you release yourself from a burden of pain and bitterness. When you forgive, you heal your fear, from that comes serenity, and in that lives contentment. If your life is affected by someone who refuses to forgive, or is not capable of forgiveness, wish them well and then let them go from your life, along with your anger.
'The Tibetan Art of Serenity'
Christopher Hansard
Salam,
Cherine
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